So many people hang onto the hurts of the past. Did someone say unkind things to you when you were twelve? Did your boyfriend or girlfriend break up with you in an unloving way? Did your parents treat you in a less-than-kind manner? Did an employer let you go without explanation? Are you holding onto these experiences, and do you feel it might be time to transform them so you can be free to live your life without resentment and hurt?
Why Do People Keep these Thoughts Going Inside?
Some people feel they need to keep these old hurts going. They replay them in their minds time and time again. Maybe they feel that if they keep the hurting thoughts going they’ll protect themselves from having to go through the situation again. Quite the opposite is true, as you will see when you read on. Other people keep the hurts going in their minds because they’re hooked on these kinds of thoughts – that so and so “did it to me” and “I can’t forget and I can’t forgive.” Some people just don’t have any idea that they can change. They’ve built neural pathways in their brain that play the old hurt over and over again. Yet, when the time is right and the desire for change is there, the doors to transformation can begin to open.
The Problem with Replaying These Thoughts Over and Over
The main problem is that thoughts are electromagnetic, which means that they’re both electrical and magnetic. So when something is a magnet, it draws to it something of like nature. When the negative thoughts keep going on, you then draw similar situations in so it seems like “There it goes again!” The same situation is back in your life. It goes on until you heal it and begin to attract new kinds of experiences. So what are the remedies?
I Am Not the Victim of the World I See
That’s a line from the book A Course in Miracles. You may feel like a victim, but you aren’t. If you look at each situation in you life as an opportunity rather than a horrible experience, then you pull yourself out of victimhood. You might also find seeds of inner power in many of the experiences of your life. Was there something in your experience that you needed to move you forward in life? Even if it was painful, did you need it to pierce you open so that you could grow into a deeper kind of person? Was there some hidden gift in your experience that came to light at one time or another? Did you need freedom to move forward when that person left you? Did that illness show you how you can have compassion for all others? What was the advantage in the experience you endured?
I Have Always Had That Problem
Instead of telling yourself that it’s always been this way for you and always will be, phrase it another way. Say, “Up until now, it’s been rough, hard, a struggle, but that’s just up until now. Now I have the opportunity to shift my thoughts and my mind and move in a forward direction.” There’s always an opportunity to move forward. What you’ve endured may have been very painful, but you don’t have to perpetuate that pain. There is a way out.
Ho’Oponopono
Ho’Oponopono is a way of looking at life that has emerged from Hawaiian shamans. One of its tenets is to take personal responsibility for everything. If it’s showing up in your life, there’s something here for you to grow from. A powerful practice of Ho’Oponopono is to say the following words throughout your days and nights:
“Thank you, I love you, I’m sorry, please forgive me.”
It means that whatever has taken place, I am giving thanks in my life, I am filling myself with love, I’m sorry I’ve misperceived things, and I ask forgiveness. I ask to forgive both myself and others.
Moving Forward
When you let go of the old hurts, the slights, the grudges, the pain – you can then move forward to the next level of your life. You don’t need to hold yourself back any longer. Move on, and you can find yourself in a new and powerful place, and you can truly transform your life.
Thank you, Marilyn, I find so much wisdom and comfort in reading your blog for letting go of the past hurts, feelings and thoughts. There is great love here and I appreciate you sharing your
love and light. My heart is open wide and I can breathe easier…..Abundant love and blessings, Cynthia
Thank you for that beautiful comment, Cynthia. It’s evident that you live from your heart. Blessings to you!
love y Marilyn. love what y do. love y. aunt mommy Phyllis
Thank you, my sweet Aunt Phyllis. I’m honored that you’re reading my blog. Thank you so much for your comment. I love you too!
Marilyn, these are powerful words for powerful change. I see many around me that would benefit from reading this post. I really like that it reminds me to let go of the past and look for the blessings in the experience. thanks
I appreciate your words, Lee. Your comment is in itself powerful. Thank you for sharing it!
The amount of writing you have astounds me. Great job. Keep up the good work!
Thank you so much, Camille. I appreciate your comment very much. Love to you!
For me in order to overcome old hurts, you should take time because time really heals all the wound and then that’s the time you can slowly move on and transform your life and make your past hurt a lesson learned that it will not happen again.
Excellent comment, Candice. Thank you!
Dear Annyka,
Thanks so much for your comment. I don’t blog every day either. And it’s okay. I wish you well with your blogging.
Love to you,
Marilyn
Great post, I really appreciate you and your blog post. Your excellent post are so meaningful to me as a reader. You contribute a lot and all of them are very helpful ideas. thank you for that!Thank you foe sharing…
Thanks again for your kind words, Annyka. You can get my free 100 page ebook on healing at http://www.lifetransformationsecrets.com. Much love, Marilyn
yes TIME, Let time take it course, time heals all pain. we are all a strong person i can truly say. and we are all here to learn.
I loved your posts!! Thank you Marilyn <3
Thank you, Nikky. I appreciate your comment. Love to you!
Thank you, Nikky!
I really needed to hear those words of wisdom. Thank you Marilyn
Thank you, Nicole. It’s very good to hear from you!